Welp. That was quite the blogging hiatus...kudo's to you, if you stuck around!
Summer is always a busy time and a time I'd rather be spending outdoors than in, but since it is 9 p.m. I figured what better way to get ready for bed then re-starting my blog by restating my purpose. I know many of you who read my blog are married with children. Or not. But either way, I feel as though there can be take-aways from this list by everyone in all walks of life. So, without further ado....(drumroll please)....Here are the Twenty-Three Reasons I Love Being Twenty-Three (and unmarried and childless):
1. I've graduated from teenage angst and acne right into the care-free and conscious stage. I’m not in menopause, I have no reason to be moody, and I do not have to be concerned with things I once was or will be in the future. I don't have to wear make-up if I don't feel like, and my job involves wearing workout clothes to work. I could not be in a better spot.
2. There is so much amazing wonder, right around the corner waiting for me, pleading with me to notice it. God’s creation is truly an amazing splendor, and the more time I spend outside the deeper my enticement.
3. I get the bed all to myself- no one else kicking and thrashing like the sheets are on fire or snoring like a lumberjack or crying because there are thunderstorms or the boogey man is in their closet. I can sleep a solid 8 hours without having to get up to go to the bathroom. Yes, I am counting this as a blessing.
4. Every limit of my comfort zone is being stretched like a neon, spandex leotard on an 80's aerobic stepper.
a. Yes. This is a good thing. While caught in this kind of awkwardly, beautiful life phase like a fish on a hook, there are a lot of things I can learn.
5. I am a grown-up, but I don't always have to act like one. At what other age in your life can you still enjoy being a kid while living on your own? No curfew? Yes, please; however, have I learned through experience that getting plenty of sleep makes me less like that one dwarf (Slumpy? Frumpy? What was his name…?)? Absolutely. It’s all about finding that balance. If I'm sad, I can cry without warrant. If I'm happy, I can jump and click my heels and smile for no reason.
6. I can dream big without reality setting me back. This year I had 23 birthday candles on my cake. Twenty-three. That’s not 3 or 103. I do not have the wisdom of a 53 year old, but I do, however, have more life-shaping experiences under my belt than a 13 year old. I’ve got plenty of years to live (God-willing), and I plan on living each of those with a large dream bubble above my head that cannot be popped by the society needle. I may not always see the curveballs coming, but I know I’ve got the tools needed to swing away. The hurdles will come, but I’m off and running the race that was set out for me. Just try and stop me.
7. I do not have to have patience with anyone else's schedule. I do not have children to drop off at soccer practice or a husband to take to the mechanic to pick up his car after an oil change. It's strictly my own calendar that falls under my realm of worry. I have my routine down to a science- I can get up, go for a run, and get ready for work in just a few short minutes. I can come and go as I please.
8. I have the option to move where I want and travel where I want. The map is my playground (even though the job market my determine where my global pinpoint is located).
9. I can practice living in the here and now. I can love every season, and wear it out like my favorite pair of jeans. I can enjoy the sun-kissed, lazy afternoon haze of the summer; the first auburn-colored leaf floating down from the large oak, cutting through the brisk autumn air; being the first set of footprints to run through the quiet snowfall on Christmas morning; and the first rain signifying that the grass will once again be green. I can enjoy the little things on the daily. I can be happy with the scent of a good cup of coffee, smile at the thought of my favorite book, snuggle up in a fleece blanket at a football game, and enjoy going for a walk around Gray's Lake just as a reminder of my favorite place on the planet.
10. I don't have to get permission. Ever.
11. My hips, knees, and back don't hurt when I get out of bed. This does not mean that I am bounding out of bed everyday, amped to get my run in as many of my co-workers so blatantly seem to think, but it does mean that I can still participate in activities without pain (most days).
12. My metabolism and activity level still allow me to eat chocolate daily. Yes, I am very thankful for this fact seeing as my willpower is not quite up to a mature adult’s standard yet…
13. I can have crushes on pro-athletes and not even have to speak in hushed tones about the fact that I'm secretly, unrealistically planning our lives together in my head. Tim Tebow doesn't seem to know that we're even in a relationship yet, but whatever gets me through my Wednesday… :)
14. I can work on my relationship with God daily and spend plenty of time learning and pursuing hard after Him without a toddlers hands grasping at my shirttail, a 5th grader needing help with their math homework, or a husband tapping my shoulder for attention. Instead, when I come home, I’m greeted by the silence of an unquenched thirst for learning and the unrelenting ringing of the Holy Spirit’s phone call (and trust me, if you avoid the ringing for too long- He picks a more agitating ringtone).
15. While everyone else is busy getting married or having babies, I'm just getting more awesome.
16. There's still the excitement of learning what I really do want in a relationship and the chance to see God preparing both him and I until we're ready. Just knowing that God has THE one picked out for me is enough to put my anxiety to rest. Plus I can pin engagement rings, wedding décor, and bridesmaid dresses on Pinterest with no pressure…just in case…
17. I don't have to like chick flicks or Ke$ha or purple eyeliner or Katy Perry or Crocs or Survivor or Toms or MTV or care what other people think of me. I traded in that prom-queen-people-pleasing mindset back in high school for an independent, sport-loving, active tomboy who loves Jesus and isn't afraid to proclaim it.
18. I can play fantasy football, wear sports jersey's, wake up early to run, paint my nails fluorescent green, read the Iowa State sports blog on the daily, wear my hair up in a mess, kick up my Nike's on the coffee table, refuse to make my bed, read real books (not magazines), pursue life dreams, try a new recipe, and shop for puppies anytime I please.
19. When I put a cup by the sink and wake up the next morning...that cup is still exactly where I left it. There are not 7 other cups there or dishes left all around my apartment. I don't have to clean up anybody else’s messes but my own.
20. I can focus on being second- not to a husband or a boyfriend or a child or a friend or my own selfish desires, but to God.
21. I may be flying solo to weddings, company Christmas parties, and family holidays (which leads me to number 22....), but I will look good doing it, smile because I like the people I’m with, and you better believe I’ll be hitting the dance floor with my moves or the game table with my competitive edge.
22. I don't have to share my holidays or split them like the product of a divorced marriage- I can spend every waking second with my own family and my family alone (because let's be honest, we all know that they're going to be tough to beat).
23. I don't want my life to be just a collection of budget sheets, banana peels, pay stubs, half-finished books, and unlived dreams. I want to be taken up to spend eternity with my savior while caught up in the very act of life- enjoying the gift He so graciously gave me by laying down His life. I don’t want my dreams to be buried with my body; I want them to be imprinted on my soul as memories, not unfulfilled wishes that disappear as the wisps of smoke from extinguished birthday candles. I want to be laughing until my abs hurt and I eventually fall silent with tears rolling down my cheeks, grinning and baring those straight, white chompers (brought to you by Dr. Hermanson’s braces and Crest White Strips), and living every second with an unexplainable joy. And since I could technically go at any time (we all could), I had better get to it...
**DISCLAIMER: It may sound as though I am anti-having-a-marital status or being a parent. The exact opposite is actually true (well at least for the former). I think marriage is a wonderful thing when God is at the center, and it is truly what he wants for you. And children can be such wonderful blessings to their parental units (e.g. me…) when they are ready to bring them into this world. It’s just not my time. I’m in this beautiful life phase, and it’s the only time in my life that I’ll ever be in this exact moment, which is why I'm choosing to step out from behind the camera and start living in the Kodak moments to come.