Thursday, December 20, 2012

Thankful Thursdays {snow day edition}.

  • My first official adult snow day! Filled with sleeping in, baking, present-wrapping, music-listening, movie-watching, reading, resting, cleaning, packing, and homemade pizza-making. I need more of these in my life.  Like maybe once a week?!
  • Finding potential.
  • A 90's Christmas Music Pandora station over the loudspeaker at work. All. Day. Long. Love me some old school N'Sync.
  • Becoming more efficient.
  • Homemade fudge.
  • Exercise endorphins.
  • Sleeping in a dark room.
  • "Buddy the elf, what's your favorite color?!"
  • Finding purpose in the everyday details.
  • The silence of the first real snowfall.
  • This verse: "My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.  For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts."- Isaiah 55:8-9.
  • Teaching a really good class that leaves people sore and coming back for more.
  • Thoughtfulness.
  • Fleece blankets.
  • Choosing your attitude on the daily.
  • Waking up without an alarm.
  • Wrapping Christmas presents...okay, okay using bags and tissue paper...
  • The anticipation of someone opening the presents I got them :)
  • THIS of the best things I've implemented in a long time. Seriously. In love.

  • Having something to look forward to.
  • Fridays.
  • Phone convo's with the cuz.
  • Feeling so incredibly loved and surrounded by support.
  • Two words: THE DARBSTER.
  • Santa's nice list.
  • Iowa State gear.
  • Home Alone.
  • Houses that go all out with Christmas lights.

Have a lovely day, kiddo's!  Can't wait to see you all over Christmas :)   In the meantime, let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart...

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Tying the knot and keeping it that way.

So, call me sheltered, call me naive, but I did not realize how lightly people take the term marriage until I entered The Real World: Corporate America.  Right.  I get it.  My first year in adulthood, but still. I was seriously shocked to slowly discover 1. How many people actually have affairs. 2. How many people don't even try to hide the fact that they're having affairs. 3. How many people have forgotten that marriage is not just some 6th grade "do you like me? check yes or no." game.  4.  How many people dangerously flirt the line of emotional affairs.  I'm about to get serious (doesn't happen often), but marriage is the binding of two people under a vow.  Right?  Marriage is the holding of hands after 50 years going strong.  Marriage is building each other up.  Marriage is seeing your spouse at their worst and best and loving them the same each way.  Marriage is challenging each other to be the best you, you can be.  Marriage is having someone to cry with, laugh with, play with.  Marriage is God-centered and for His glory.  Marriage is having someone to celebrate your successes and help pick you up after your failures.  Marriage is having a road trip partner, someone to critique movies with, and a partner in crime.  Marriage is love.  But most of all marriage is commitment.  I have a hard time understanding how affairs begin or even what insecurities they stem from, but a text here, a flirty conversation there, even thinking about the person outside of your marriage in an inappropriately emotional way?  Really, not okay.  Entertaining these thoughts can lead you down dangerous paths that may start from the simplest of misread actions.  I get that everyone has their vice.  We are all tempted in different ways, but fortunately there is 1 Corinthians 10:13 to remind us- "No temptation has seized you, except what is common to man.  And God is faithful; He will not let us be tempted beyond what we can bear.  But when we are tempted, He will provide a way out so that we can stand up under it."  So, by all means, my eyes have been opened to a whole new world, and unfortunately it's not the Aladin-magic-carpet-ride kind.  This topic has recently intertwined itself with the myocardial fibers of my heart.  Especially when you're in the pursuit of living the life that God has planned out for you and praying for direction and feeling called to love, these things should lay wary on your mind as they do with mine.  My heart breaks for anyone who has fallen victim to these situations since it not only effects the two people bound together in marriage but their families, children, co-workers, and the lives surrounding them.  Talk about selfish.  So, please respect the sanctity of marriage in a society that doesn't seem to care.  If you can't at least commit to that at the very least, then here's a thought, MAYBE DON'T GET MARRIED? 

Tell your significant other that you love them, leave a thank you note for your spouse with the things you appreciate about them, perform a random act of kindness for someone you love, go on a date night, hold their hand just because, kiss their forehead unexpectedly, plan a trip together, spend time building a stronger foundation, DON'T GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU ARE 100% SURE AND READY, love each other with everything you have, and above all else: keep your relationship God-centered. Because in the end, that's all you really can do.  Lean on each other and hold tight to the promises that He brings.  
In other news for anyone who is about to ask me those ever-popular holiday questions of "SO, where yo boyfrannn at?  You got a boyfrann? Is he tall?  Is he hefty?  Is he getting you refreshments?" (youtube video...hilarious):  I refuse to settle down or even use the term settle down.  Who wants to settle into a marriage?  What a terrible idea.  And who wants to rush the dating phase?  Not a chance.  I want to fall madly in love.  I want to make date night a regular thing.  I want to flirt with my husband when I'm 82 years old.  I want to spend time appreciating each other in all of our weirdness.  I want to put effort and energy into a relationship.  I want to travel together, learn together, and live our lives together.  No secrets.  No strings attached...

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Thankful Thursdays.

  • Darby sliding across the lineoleum.
  • God's provision.
  • Chocolate covered pretzels.
  • The word "foreva".
  • Pizza and movie nights.
  • Days off.
  • The anticipation of the holidays.
  • Christmas break.
  • The perfect coffee concoction.
  • Neon green.
  • Clues to a scavenger hunt.
  • Girls night over nachos.
  • Successful soccer banquets and the outfits that go with them.
  • The end of a LONG, RIDICULOUS program at work.  And with it, the end of the LONG, RIDICULOUS questions that could have been answered had they just read the initial e-mail...and then re-read it...and then re-read it again.
  • This verse, "Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer." Romans 12:12.
  • My Charlie Brown Christmas tree, courtesy of grandma :)
  • Appetizers.
  • Energy.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Life on purpose.

Living a life of intention is often something that slips my mind, but what better time to start living on purpose than the present?  So many times I get to the end of the day and wonder where the time has gone or what did I even do with my day or why is my life such a blur or what did I eat for lunch or did I remember to use shampoo...or sometimes I don't even think these things at all. My head hits the pillow, my to-do list for tomorrow runs through my brain, I probably respond to a few texts, a few prayers are sent upstairs, and a few special thoughts slowly rock me to sleep.  But a few recent events have spurred me into letting my mind wander and dream and pray about where I really want to be in this life, what my purpose really is.  I may not know the p's and q's of my future road map, and actually I probably don't even know where my next turn will be, nor will I ever.  But in the meantime, why not live each day like the gift we've been given?  Why not wake up and get out of bed with intention?  Lace up those Nike's and hit the road because we've got some heavenly real estate to share with others and plenty of living on purpose to do.  Each breath is something to cherish, each smile, each phone call, each interaction- unique and precious.  So, stop taking things for granted and start wearing out the things you've been given to use because you've only got one life to live.

"Have I not not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." -Joshua 1:9

Thursday, December 6, 2012


Thankful Thursdays.

  • Dreaming big.
  • Commitment.
  • Skyping with Grandma.
  • Library cards.
  • 50 degrees in December.
  • Early morning, head-clearing, prayer-filled runs.
  • Basically clear tests.
  • Energy.
  • Peppermint bark.
  • The Disney World, magical feeling of renewal and love that only church can bring.
  • Deep breaths.
  • The release of anxiety.
  • Twinkle lights.
  • Kiddo smiles.
  • This verse, "In all your ways follow Him, and He will make your path straight."- Proverbs 3:6
  • Anticipation.
  • Late lunches.
  • Christmas shopping.
  • Cinnamon Toast Crunch.
  • Darby's sleepy puppy face.
  • Moose tracks and movie nights.
  • Bear hugs.
  • The smell of baking bread.
  • Did I mention mint m&ms?
  • Coffee shops where students are studying for finals and I AM NOT AND LOVING EVERY SINGLE SECOND OF IT.  That is all.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Things that Baffle me.

  • Having to pay to recyle.
  • Girls who put lipstick on right before they go to dinner.
  • Calling 3 running plays up the middle of the field when they didn't work the first 2 times.
  • Why the dentist office is booked between now and my 25th birthday.
  • Why I haven't been to the dentist in 2 years....
  • What the heck happened to crispy m&m's??
  • Candles that smell like poison ivy and mosquito spray.
  • Why I have to choose between getting eaten alive by mosquitoes or having my face eaten off by the cancer in mosquito spray.
  • Why Gatorade didn't stop making flavors after Blue Frost because let's be can never get better than that.
  • Why in the world you cannot get 100 Grand bars anywhere in Des Moines.
  • Why flossing is supposed to be done on the daily...who has time for that nonsense?!
  • Sarah Palin.
  • People who take the elevator up to the 2nd floor of the fitness center to work out.  Umm. Whaaat.
  • People who don't turn right on red.
  • People who use the left lane while they are driving -5 mph.
  • Why Darby feels the need to go to the bathroom in the most public places.  It's so embarassing.
  • Why Darby feels the need to run through the piles of leaves just raked by the lawn guys.  Also embarassing.
  • People who ride bikes without any tension on there.  You look like you're going nowhere, just FYI.